18 April 2013
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Pears in Spiced Red Wine

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I tried peeling my pears “decoratively”, but I’m not that impressed with the way they turned out and wish I had just peeled them all the way. Won’t be doing that again :)

5 Bartlett pears (Bartletts hold their shape nicely), peeled, and cored from the bottom.
3 cups red wine (I used a combo of Rioja and some leftover Malbec)
1 vanilla bean, split in half and seeds scraped out (don’t throw away, we’re using those!)
1 cinnamon stick
1 cup sugar (can also use Sucanat if you prefer unprocessed)

In a pot just large enough to hold the pears upright, combine red wine, vanilla bean plus seeds, cinnamon stick and sugar, whisking to dissolve sugar. Make sure pears are submerged. (I didn’t quite have enough wine and my pot was a bit bigger than I wanted, so I laid the pears on their sides, and turned them several times while cooking to ensure even coloring.) Add pears and bring to a boil over medium-high heat. Once it reaches the boil (watch carefully), immediately lower heat to simmer and poach pears, covered, about 30 minutes, or just until tender when pierced with a fork. Remove pears to a pan deep enough to hold the syrup, and boil down wine mixture until thick and syrupy. Pour over pears and serve.


There was a lot of leftover syrup after we had eaten the pears, so I boiled it down a bit further, and used it as a topping for my homemade chocolate frozen yogurt the next day. Yum!!

18 April 2013
by stef
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Poulet Basquaise (Chicken Basque-Style) for St. Bernadette’s Feast Day, April 16

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When we visited Lourdes in 2008, we ate a chicken dish at this restaurant, but I don’t remember much about it except that it had a winey sauce with a bit of bite, and that it had peppers, which I disliked as a child but now love as an adult. So when I was looking for a chicken recipe to prepare for St. Bernadette’s Feast, I chanced upon this Poulet Basquaise, that does have the spicy winey sauce, and the peppers. Parfait!

It starts out with a classic chicken sauté, and then come the peppers, and finally the finishing sauce, with everything heated gently together at the end to allow flavors to blend more fully. Excellent over rice or potatoes, or accompany with some French bread.

I used organic boneless chicken thighs here, which we keep in stock in the freezer to make daily meal prep easier, but you can easily adapt the recipe to bone-in chicken parts; just cook the chicken a few minutes longer to make sure they’re cooked through. You can also use boneless chicken breasts, but watch that you don’t overcook :) .

1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil
3 lbs. boneless chicken thighs, patted dry
sea salt and freshly ground black pepper
1 cup sliced onions
1 tablespoon minced garlic
1/2 cup chopped Bayonne ham, or substitute prosciutto
1 bay leaf
2 red bell peppers, sliced into strips
1 green bell pepper, sliced into strips
2 pinches piment d’espelette, or substitute red pepper flakes
1 cup red wine (I used a combo of Rioja & some leftover French Merlot)
4 tablespoons tomato paste
4 tablespoons minced parsley

Heat olive oil in a large, deep skillet, over medium heat until hot but not smoking. Add chicken thighs in one layer, leaving enough space between chicken pieces to ensure that they sauté properly and not steam. (Cook the chicken in batches if you have to.) Cook until golden on one side, 7-8 minutes. Carefully turn and cook the other side, seasoning with salt and pepper as you go, another 7-8 minutes. Remove to a platter. Add onions and sauté until just becoming limp, then add garlic. Cook 2-3 minutes to release aroma, then add ham and bay leaf. Cook a few minutes to meld flavors. Add sliced peppers and cook, 5-6 minutes, stirring, until peppers are just limp. Do not overcook or they will turn to mush. Season with piment d’espelette and a bit of salt, stir and cook a couple minutes more, then remove to platter. Pour in wine, deglazing skillet to incorporate browned bits. Increase heat to medium-high and boil down to about 3/4 cup. Whisk in tomato paste. Taste and adjust seasoning, then return chicken and pepper mixture to skillet. Fold to coat everything with the sauce. Remove from heat, transfer to platter, and sprinkle with chopped parsley. Serve immediately.

Note: French sauces are often enriched with a bit of butter at the end. Though truly delicious and gives the dish that extra OOMPH, I’ve omitted this step because of dairy allergies here. If you wish to add butter, swirl in 3 tablespoons of it, cut into small pieces, after adding the tomato paste and correcting for seasoning. Continue as above.

I’ve found different recipes for Poulet Basquaise; some call for white wine, others no wine at all, and still others use chicken stock. I’ve picked the red for this dish as the one I remember eating in Lourdes definitely had red wine and not white. :)

16 April 2013
by stef
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Salt Cod and Potato Salad for St. Bernadette’s Feast Day, April 16

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Salt cod is one of those things that have always appealed to me. There are so many things you can do with it! You can put it in soups, flake and make fish balls/fritters with it, make into a brandade (my FAVORITE, except the family can’t have it), add to a stir fry, or some fried rice, put in a tomato-based stew, etc. It is used not only in France and parts of Europe, but also in Latin America, and my homeland, the Philippines, where it is called Bacalao and is a mainstay of the Lenten season. The only thing that has discouraged me from using it more often is the traditional long-term soak, as you have to leave it in the fridge, where it takes up space, and change the water it soaks in several times, for at least a couple of days. I finally found a way to quick-soak it, and it works perfectly. Strictly speaking, it isn’t a SOAK, but it is a fast way of getting rid of the salt, which means you can do it early in the morning, with enough time to serve it at lunch. Or start after lunch and have it ready for supper.

The other consideration when eating salt cod, besides the soaking process, is mercury. Cod does offer omega-3 fatty acids and other benefits, but it is also a moderate-mercury fish. Enjoy it once in a while, but know that there are other, better choices.

1 lb. salt cod, brought gently to a boil with water to cover — change the water 2-3 times until no longer salty and cod is tender and flakes easily
1 1/2 lbs. French fingerlings or other potato
5 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
4 tablespoons white wine or apple cider vinegar
sea salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
1/4 cup chopped parsley

Bring potatoes to a boil in a large pot with water to cover. Lower heat to a simmer and cook, approx. 20 minutes, or just until they can be pierced through with a fork or the tip of a knife. Peel potatoes (if desired; I left some unpeeled) and chop into bite-sized pieces.

Whisk oil, vinegar, salt and pepper in a large bowl. Add flaked salt cod and potatoes. Toss gently, adjust seasoning, and sprinkle with chopped parsley. Serve immediately. Can be served warm or at room temperature.


Note on the potatoes: I love these French fingerlings, not just because of the name which matches today’s feast perfectly. French fingerlings have a somewhat rosy hue and a hint of sweetness to their flesh, a perfect partner to the salt cod. Of course, you can use whatever potatoes you have on hand, or your favorite.

16 April 2013
by stef
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Basque-Style Green Beans for the Feast of St. Bernadette

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4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
1 tablespoon minced garlic
1/2 cup chopped onions
1/2 cup chopped red peppers
1 1/2 lbs. green beans, trimmed
sea salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste

1/2 cup chopped Basque/Bayonne Ham, or Jamon Iberico or Serrano, or Prosciutto

Heat olive oil in skillet and sauté minced garlic over medium heat, just until garlic begins to turn color. Add in onions and sauté a few minutes, until onions are limp and beginning to color. Add red peppers, keep sautéing a few minutes more, then add green beans. Give a quick stir, cover and cook 5 minutes. Test for tenderness — you want the green beans still a very lively green and with a bit of resistance. Cook a few more minutes or to desired doneness. Season with salt and pepper. Remove from heat and toss with chopped ham. Serve.

See also: Olive and Anchovy Pinchos/Pintxos for St. Bernadette’s Feast Day


Prayer of St. Bernadette Soubirous:

Let the crucifix be not only in my eyes and on my breast, but in my heart.
O Jesus! Release all my affections and draw them upwards.
Let my crucified heart sink forever into Thine and bury itself in the mysterious
wound made by the entry of the lance.”

16 April 2013
by stef
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Olive and Anchovy Pinchos/Pintxos for St. Bernadette’s Feast Day

A Basquaise appetizer that’s really easy to put together and takes no time at all. Plus, olives are soooo good for you. I inherited my mom’s love of both anchovies and olives :) . The hot peppers add that needed ZING.

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To make these, you’ll need:

an assortment of olives (I got an assortment to represent the fact that St. Bernadette comes from the Basque region, which straddles the boundary between France and Spain.)
anchovies
hot peppers
toothpicks

Thread the hot peppers, anchovies, and olives onto the toothpicks. Arrange on a plate and serve.


A note on the olives:

Above are arbequinas, manzanillas, coquillos, picholines, gordals, sevillano con limon, and empeltre. The gordals are my favorite. :)

More ideas to celebrate here and here. We are watching this Vision book.

8 April 2013
by stef
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Annunciation Waffles (Allergen-Free!!)

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Happy Feast of the Annunciation of our Lord!! We started the day with Mass, and hurried home anticipating breakfast, since Jenn tells us that the food most associated with this feast are WAFFLES. And I think our allergen-free formula’s finally good enough to share. This makes ~6 large Belgian waffles. They’re hefty and crunchy and will hold up to whipped cream and syrup and fruits. We used blueberries since it’s Mama Mary’s feast day. I was hoping to add flavored whipped coconut cream, but I forgot to chill the coconut milk and had to settle for maple syrup only. Next time. :)

2 cups brown rice flour
1 cup gluten-free oats
1 cup potato starch
1/2 cup tapioca starch
2 tablespoons protein powder
2 tablespoons ground flax seed
3 tablespoons Sucanat (or sugar)
2 teaspoons cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon baking powder

2 cups almond milk (or other dairy-free milk if you can’t have almonds)
2 teaspoons lemon juice
1/3 cup canola oil (or melted vegan butter, or coconut oil, or a mild-flavored olive oil)
3 tablespoons maple syrup (or agave nectar)
1 tablespoon vanilla extract

Note: If using a Vita-Mix or other high-powered blender, you can just use 2 cups brown rice and 1 cup oats, un-ground. Just dump all the ingredients into the blender and blend until smooth.

Combine dry ingredients in a bowl.

In another bowl whisk together almond milk and lemon juice. Let stand a few minutes, then whisk in canola oil, maple syrup and vanilla extract.

Combine dry and wet ingredients and whisk until smooth. (Alternatively, run through blender.)

Bake in wafflemaker according to manufacturer’s directions.

Serve hot, topped with maple syrup, fresh fruit and an allergen-free whipped topping, if you like.

Variation: The same batter, thinned out a bit with more almond or other dairy-free milk, can be used to make pizzelles.


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Annunciation Prayer

Lord who came down from heaven
and stayed in the womb of St. Mary,
after making the annunciation
to her through his head of angels, is blessed.
The Lord is blessed whom the heaven and earth,
Angels and mankind are praising always.
Oh Lord let the intercession of your mother
be a fort for us all.

Peace be unto thee,
Mother of the Sun of righteousness.
Peace be unto thee, the palace of holiness,
Peace be unto thee the ship full of blessings,
the fruit of your virginity is blessed,
Holy Mother please pray for us,
so that we would also be holy like you in our lives.
Lord have mercy upon us.

Lord Jesus,
who was kind enough
to take the presence in humble virgin,
kindly live in us
and redeem us from the strong bondages of sins and death.
Lord make us good and worthy divine homes,
so that you could stay in us.

Lord who had been kind enough
to take the human body from the virgin,
unite us all in your peace.
Unite us all with your grace.
Fill your love in us
so that we could share the love
with you and among us all.
Make us worthy to praise thee
with your blessed Mother and all the saints.

Holy virgin Mother, you are blessed,
By thy prayers
let the Holy church and her children
be saved from all sorts of calamities
and let all the departed get forgiveness for their sins.
Amen.

More ideas for celebrating the day, from Jenn Miller here.

3 April 2013
by stef
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A Mother’s Rule of Life, Revisited

A Mother's Rule of Life by Holly Pierlot

A Mother’s Rule of Life by Holly Pierlot

At the beginning of Lent, I made a promise to myself and to God that I would emerge from Lent a new person. And in a some ways, I have. But there’s a not-so-teensy part of my life that I haven’t completely given over to God yet, and I need to get on the same page as my Lord and just.do.it. (My God is *not* Nike, just in case anyone’s wondering, but I thought the slogan apropos.) “Just Do It” in my world means = put together a new Mother’s Rule of Life, and stick to it. God, after all, I’m reminded often, is a God of ORDER, and the more I resist that ORDER, the more I get in trouble. As I’ve gotten older and gained more experience homeschooling, I’ve come to the conclusion that a Rule of Life does make a lot of sense. Why I haven’t stuck to one before, I can’t explain — probably pigheadedness, or immaturity, or both.

I’ve posted schedules and chore charts here before, but children grow, and responsibilities change, so we adjust schedules as needed. What I post here today is our CURRENT IDEAL schedule. It doesn’t happen like this 100% of the time. Usually we’re lucky if we’re able to stick to it 75% of the time, but since I had an excellent Lent, I’m trying to keep to my Lenten promises and shoot for 100%. As long as the most important pegs stay in place, then we’re able to function well from day to day… but that doesn’t mean we can’t continue to strive for perfection.

If you’re a new homeschooler visiting, please don’t let this overwhelm you. Note that my children are now 4, 11, 14, 16 and 22. Eighty-percent of them are self-directed learners now, give or take some days when I have to push and prod and…. nag. (Yeah, I do a bit of that too, but let’s not talk about nagging right now :D .)

I share this so you have an idea of how a Catholic homeschooling mom’s day works (or, FOR ME, *should*). When the children were younger, I spent more time on “LESSONS WITH” and hardly any on “Projects”, so the projects piled up through the years. My favorite homeschooling years so far were circa ~2006-2008, when the children were at the perfect age for doing Latin together as a group, and we’d go to Mass in the mornings and tackle Latin first thing when we got home and after/while having breakfast. I sometimes wish my kids were still that age, as I really miss the ~1-2 hours we spent together in the living room, some of us on the couches, some of us on the floor, reciting our Latin phrases over and over. There were complaints about tedium and boredom and Latin being A DEAD LANGUAGE, MOM, but for the most part we had fun together and they’re thankful now for having had that bit of background. And yeah, kids grow.

So here it is, our new schedule, for your enjoyment/edification :D and perhaps, some kind of accountability for me, since I’m putting it out there. This is MOM’s schedule, by the way. The kids have their own, matching mine for lessons and Mass and mealtimes, but everything else is determined by them, the only requirement being that they get their work done in a timely manner. (“Timely” may mean different things to different people, but that will have to be the subject of another post at another time.) :)

6:00 Invitatory, Morning Prayer, Shower
6:30 Breakfast Prep, Answer E-mail, Laundry
7:30 Breakfast
8:30 Mass
9:30 Lessons with Yena
10:30 Nino, Project 1
11:00 Lunch Prep
12:00 Lunch, Cleanup, Laundry
1:00 Religion with Migi
2:00 Nino, Quiet Time
3:00 Divine Mercy Chaplet, Garden (spring to fall), Exercise
4:00 Project 2 (while kids cleanup hot spots)
5:00 Dinner Prep
6:00 Dinner Prep, Project 3
7:00 Dinner, Cleanup
8:00 Family Rosary
8:30 Project 4
9:30 Get Ready for Bed
10:00 Bedtime Reading, Lights Out

There are many things that are part of our day but which don’t appear here. Grocery-shopping isn’t here — that happens rather randomly: when we’re out of food, or at least food that the kids will eat, about every week or 1 1/2 weeks. Sicknesses also mess up the schedule, as to be expected. And the kids have too many evening activities now (scouts, AHG, choir, Dead Theologians Society, etc.), so the family dinner happens anywhere between 5 and 10 most days, and there are days when we don’t all eat together. A sad thing but that’s the phase of life we’re in, and we try to make up for it on the weekends, when we linger at the dinner table and write in our family journal as we eat.

“Projects” can mean anything — a post I’m working on for the blog, curtains for Aisa’s room, hemming my hubby’s pants, the unending basement decluttering project, finishing the photobook at Shutterfly, spending a bit of time at the forum or at Facebook :D , etc.

I have to confess I’ve been the #1 violator of the 10:00 bedtime rule, but I’m really trying to be better and got to a nice start this Lent. Unfortunately, my kids, of course, had all picked up on my habits early on and are night owls themselves. But I’ll leave it up to them to determine if/when they need to make any changes there, when the time is right.

Related Posts:

Following the Schedule: Mother’s Rule of Life
My Favorite GTD Flowchart
Regrouping

2 April 2013
by stef
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Orecchiette with Mushrooms, Meat Sauce and Hot Pepper Oil (with Allergen-Free Version)

[Note: This dish can be used to celebrate St. Cornelius' Feast Day on September 16. He's the patron saint of ear ache sufferers.]

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This post is for my cousin Mariel who requested the recipe for this. I had prepared it for one of our dinners around Christmas, when we had our mini-family reunion at my brother’s in Reading, PA. It’s a simple dish, not too many ingredients. We first encountered it at the hypermarket Auchan in Pescara, where we lived for a time in 2009. They had a cafe of sorts right in the store, so people can grab a bite to eat before or after shopping. This pasta dish is served from a large vat (from want of a better word) about 3 feet wide, and the lady that serves you will ask if you want piccante with it, and I always said yes, as I think it’s the chili oil that really makes the dish. Enjoy, Mariel!

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1 lb. orecchiette (Benedetto Cavalieri‘s, which I use here, is a little over a lb.) — substitute rice pasta if avoiding wheat/gluten (Tinkyada is our favorite brand)
1/2 lb. ground beef
1/2 lb. ground pork (turkey will do as well)
1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil
3 tablespoons minced garlic, about 10 cloves
1 medium onion, chopped
a bunch of mushrooms, at least 8 oz., trimmed and sliced — my family LOVES mushrooms so I usually put a lb or so, since they cook down so much anyway
1/2 cup red wine, whatever table wine you’re serving with this would be great!
1/2 cup heavy whipping cream, more if you want it creamier (substitute almond milk, soy milk, or coconut milk if avoiding dairy)
sea salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste

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for the olio piccante:
3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
1 teaspoon minced garlic
1 teaspoon red pepper flakes
a pinch of sea salt

freshly grated Parmigiano, Pecorino or Grana Padano for serving

If your beef/pork is on the fatty side and you want to discard the fat, begin with cooking the meat in a large skillet over medium heat, breaking it up and giving everything a good stir every few minutes or so, until fat is rendered. The beef and pork I get is usually lean, so I start out with the oil.

Bring a large pot of water to the boil, for the pasta. Cook pasta al dente, according to manufacturer’s instructions.

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Meanwhile, heat oil in large skillet over medium heat. Add the meat and cook, breaking it up and stirring often, until about halfway done, 10 minutes or so. Add garlic and sauté 2-3 minutes, until just beginning to color. Add onions and continue to sauté until limp, about 3 minutes. Add mushrooms and cook, stirring frequently, until mushrooms have given off some of their juice. Add red wine and cook down, stirring occasionally, until liquid is reduced by about half. Add cream and lower heat. Season with salt and pepper to taste.

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To make the salsa piccante: Heat oil over medium heat in a small skillet, until hot but not smoking. Add garlic, pepper flakes and salt. Remove from heat immediately. Let stand a few minutes then pour into a small bowl for serving.

Toss pasta with the meat sauce and serve hot, with the olio piccante and grated cheese on the side for diners to add as they wish.


For allergen-free version:

meat sauce, made with coconut milk instead of heavy whipping cream

meat sauce, made with coconut milk instead of heavy whipping cream

Prepare rice pasta according to manufacturer’s directions.
Cook sauce according to instructions above, except instead of adding heavy whipping cream after the red wine reduction, use coconut milk or your choice of non-dairy milk. Continue as instructed above.
Possible grated cheese substitutes, for sprinkling on top of pasta: either use veggie cheese alternatives, or toast some almond flour in a dry skillet, or use nutritional yeast.

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29 March 2013
by stef
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Good Friday

And both the girls cried bitterly (though they hardly knew why) and clung to the Lion and kissed his mane and his nose and his paws and his great, sad eyes. Then he turned from them and walked out on to the top of the hill. And Lucy and Susan, crouching in the bushes, looked after him, and this is what they saw.

A great crowd of people were standing all round the Stone Table and though the moon was shining many of them carried torches which burned with evil-looking red flames and black smoke. But such people! Ogres with monstrous teeth, and wolves, and bull-headed men; spirits of evil trees and poisonous plants; and other creatures whom I won’t describe because if I did the grownups would probably not let you read this book – Cruels and Hags and Incubuses, Wraiths, Horrors, Efreets, Sprites, Orknies, Wooses, and Ettins. In fact here were all those who were on the Witch’s side and whom the Wolf had summoned at her command. And right in the middle, standing by the Table, was the Witch herself.

A howl and a gibber of dismay went up from the creatures when they first saw the great Lion pacing towards them, and for a moment even the Witch seemed to be struck with fear. Then she recovered herself and gave a wild fierce laugh.

“The fool!” she cried. “The fool has come. Bind him fast.”

Lucy and Susan held their breaths waiting for Aslan’s roar and his spring upon his enemies. But it never came. Four Hags, grinning and leering, yet also (at first) hanging back and half afraid of what they had to do, had approached him. “Bind him, I say!” repeated the White Witch. The Hags made a dart at him and shrieked with triumph when they found that he made no resistance at all. Then others – evil dwarfs and apes – rushed in to help them, and between them they rolled the huge Lion over on his back and tied all his four paws together, shouting and cheering as if they had done something brave, though, had the Lion chosen, one of those paws could have been the death of them all. But he made no noise, even when the enemies, straining and tugging, pulled the cords so tight that they cut into his flesh. Then they began to drag him towards the Stone Table.

“Stop!” said the Witch. “Let him first be shaved.”

Another roar of mean laughter went up from her followers as an ogre with a pair of shears came forward and squatted down by Aslan’s head. Snip-snip-snip went the shears and masses of curling gold began to fall to the ground. Then the ogre stood back and the children, watching from their hiding-place, could see the face of Aslan looking all small and different without its mane. The enemies also saw the difference.

“Why, he’s only a great cat after all!” cried one.

“Is that what we were afraid of?” said another.

And they surged round Aslan, jeering at him, saying things like “Puss, Puss! Poor Pussy,” and “How many mice have you caught today, Cat?” and “Would you like a saucer of milk, Pussums?”

“Oh, how can they?” said Lucy, tears streaming down her cheeks. “The brutes, the brutes!” for now that the first shock was over the shorn face of Aslan looked to her braver, and more beautiful, and more patient than ever.

“Muzzle him!” said the Witch. And even now, as they worked about his face putting on the muzzle, one bite from his jaws would have cost two or three of them their hands. But he never moved. And this seemed to enrage all that rabble. Everyone was at him now. Those who had been afraid to come near him even after he was bound began to find their courage, and for a few minutes the two girls could not even see him – so thickly was he surrounded by the whole crowd of creatures kicking him, hitting him, spitting on him, jeering at him.

At last the rabble had had enough of this. They began to drag the bound and muzzled Lion to the Stone Table, some pulling and some pushing. He was so huge that even when they got him there it took all their efforts to hoist him on to the surface of it. Then there was more tying and tightening of cords.

“The cowards! The cowards!” sobbed Susan. “Are they still afraid of him, even now?”

When once Aslan had been tied (and tied so that he was really a mass of cords) on the flat stone, a hush fell on the crowd. Four Hags, holding four torches, stood at the corners of the Table. The Witch bared her arms as she had bared them the previous night when it had been Edmund instead of Aslan. Then she began to whet her knife. It looked to the children, when the gleam of the torchlight fell on it, as if the knife were made of stone, not of steel, and it was of a strange and evil shape.

As last she drew near. She stood by Aslan’s head. Her face was working and twitching with passion, but his looked up at the sky, still quiet, neither angry nor afraid, but a little sad. Then, just before she gave the blow, she stooped down and said in a quivering voice,

“And now, who has won? Fool, did you think that by all this you would save the human traitor? Now I will kill you instead of him as our pact was and so the Deep Magic will be appeased. But when you are dead what will prevent me from killing him as well? And who will take him out of my hand then? Understand that you have given me Narnia forever, you have lost your own life and you have not saved his. In that knowledge, despair and die.”

The children did not see the actual moment of the killing. They couldn’t bear to look and had covered their eyes.

28 March 2013
by stef
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The Sacramental Dimension: Deep Conversion, Deep Prayer

Jesus and the Samaritan Woman at the Well, by Guercino

Jesus and the Samaritan Woman at the Well, by Guercino

The Sacramental Dimension

The last part of the book is dedicated to discussing the Sacraments and how they relate to living the Be’s. There is a reminder that the “plan” for deep conversion and deep prayer is

a combination of divine grace and our cooperation with it.

On the Sacrament of Reconciliation: it is a sacrament for GUILT, not for mere feelings or mistakes,

there is no free will in a mere feeling.

What we do need to confess to the priest are things we can control but do not.

One of the reasons we should not confess non-guilt items is that they distract us from what we can and should correct: real guilt, real sins.

An admonition follows on how to properly approach the Sacrament of Confession. Where there doesn’t seem to be real, permanent change,

the “firm purpose of amendment” part of genuine sorrow, sincere contrition, seems to be absent.

There cannot be a sacrament of Reconciliation unless real guilt is confessed.

This might be a good time to review with the kids. They should know this, but it never hurts to reiterate.

Fr. Dubay re the dwindling numbers at confession: 3 explanations: 1) a loss of the sense of sin; 2) doctrinal and moral dissent among some theologians and priests; 3) the widespread and unmet need for conversion, deep conversion.

As we were telling the kids, there was a time in our marriage when we never went to confession. I guess at the time we thought we were perfect people, or perfect enough that we didn’t need the sacrament. Only by the grace of God, I’m sure, were we able to survive those years without falling apart. And only by the grace of God have we been brought back to this beautiful Sacrament.

And then another timely reminder, which Fr. Dubay addresses to religious leaders, but that’s particularly useful to us, as we’ve had parenting issues to deal with the past few weeks:

To lead in this context means, of course, to lead first by living an example of deep contemplative prayer and then to teach what they themselves are living. Our best people are thirsting for this quality of leadership.

Yes.


Prolixity, a new word.

I refer to penitents who take undue amounts of time in what they have to say to the confessor.

The rest is a review of what is, and how it should be approached. At our parish, at least, this doesn’t seem to be a problem, as everyone seems to be cognizant of the proper length of time spent at the confessional. We’ve rarely experienced a delay at the waiting line caused by someone spending too much time with Father.


Among all worldviews it is the gospel alone that produces the beauty of the saints. Nothing else does. They are deeply converted, and therefore utterly in love with triune Beauty.

Yes, this truly has been my most fruitful Lent ever. I will be on my knees thanking the Lord, these Holiest Days of the Year, the Easter Triduum. This is going to be one tremendous Easter.

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28 March 2013
by stef
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Be Humble, Specific, Persevering: Deep Conversion, Deep Prayer

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It’s been difficult to write the past week or so. Three kids have gotten sick so far, and I’m starting to feel the beginnings of a bad cold/cough. Not a bad ending to Lent at all. :)

I finished the book last week but here are my last reflections for the next “Be’s”.

The Fifth Be: Be Humble

Humility is complete honesty — not just partial candor, but full.

This Lent for me has been about clarity. It has been about opening up my heart to the Lord — no holds barred — and allowing His light to shine into its innermost spaces, the corners full of cobwebs, the nooks that I’m afraid to let even Him see. At the beginning of Lent, I was hoping He’d look into some of those nooks and say, “Don’t worry about it; you’re doing okay.” Instead He took some of my most precious possessions and told me frankly, “This doesn’t belong here.”

I have to admit I’m still not holy enough as to resist completely the urge to bargain with Him, to remonstrate, to follow up my “Yes” with a “but, Lord”… but the grace He grants me daily gets me through, somehow. I have to work on my humility to trust more consistently that He knows best, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

The very best scholars, whether they are physicists or theologians, have a good grasp of how much they do not know even in their own field, let alone those outside of it.

We may acknowledge that we have made some progress in holiness, but most likely there are some remaining egocentrisms. And all of us have experienced failures and made many mistakes.

No argument here.

Everything you and I have that is beautiful, insightful or successful is a gift of God. To be acutely aware of this is to be humble and grateful.

Humility invites light, divine light that we otherwise would not have.

To choose wisely in the multiplicities of life we need the light given in the virtue of prudence, and this light the Lord loves to give to the humble, the little ones.

This quote and the subsequent paragraph were extremely helpful to me. That word, prudence. It’s the HOW of things, of how I live my life, daily, hourly, in the moment. The choices I make, both large and small.

The Sixth Be: Be Specific

The spiritual life is, as Job 7:1 reminded us, a warfare. Vague wishes go nowhere. This is why many of the wise religious orders retain the practice they call particular examen…. the person focuses special daily attention on one fault to be corrected or one virtue to be acquired or improved upon: gossiping, overeating or bursts of temper, for example; or gentleness, humility or truth telling.

Extremely valuable lesson here, and one I need to apply better myself as well as emphasize to my children. So many times in the past when making resolutions (and I make them often, usually at the beginning of the year, at the beginning of Advent, of Lent, or the schoolyear, or after a break or sickness), I’ve made the mistake of overwhelming myself with a list of changes I need to make in my life. Then I look back at those lists months later and find that nothing much has changed, or that any progress that I’ve made hasn’t stuck. On the other hand, certain habits that I’ve really focused on to develop, such as praying the Morning Prayer and the Office of Readings first thing in the morning when I wake up, because I had made it a priority over other things for several weeks, are now habits, and I feel incomplete on days when I fail to pray them. Once again, my hubby’s rule of “one thing at a time” serves me well in this endeavor.

The Seventh Be: Be Persevering

And very few indeed will sacrifice comfort and ease for years on end — unless they are deeply in love, real love.

Implementing the Be’s means

a) a personal weekly checkup to ensure the seven Be’s aren’t forgotten.
b) periodic accountability to confessor or spiritual director.

Spouses in an ideal marriage could agree to be accountable to each other — even to the point of gently calling the other to task when such may be helpful.

:) Gratefully and by God’s grace, we are here.

A new word for me: monition: an agreed upon and welcomed admonishing of one another done in a spirit of mutual love, and at a mutually suitable time and place.

The seven Be’s feed off of each other.

We are then less likely to permit ourselves to forget any of the Be’s or to take our eyes off Jesus and his salvific message, the mainspring of the entire enterprise.

21 March 2013
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Cappuccino “Larabar” or “Jocalat” Recipe (DIY, Homemade, Yummy)

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Another “convenience food” that my family loves, except that most of the family is allergic to cashews and walnuts, star ingredients in many of Larabars’ products.

1 cup almonds
1 to 1 1/2 cups pitted dates (we’re currently using Deglet Noor, but for previous batches we used Medjool — both work well)
1 tablespoon espresso powder or finely ground coffee beans
2 tablespoons cocoa powder
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
2 tablespoons dairy-free chocolate chips
1/4 cup dried cherries (optional)
water if needed

Pulse all ingredients (except water) in food processor, until everything is in uniform “crumbs”.
If mixture is too dry to hold together (depending on moisture content of your dates), dribble in water, a tablespoon at a time.
Process a few seconds and test again.
Stir and process further if you prefer finer-textured bars.

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Transfer to plastic-lined cutting board and press into a rectangle about 4″ x 6″ and about 1/2 inch thick.
Cut with a sharp knife into bars or squares.
Wrap individually in parchment if packing for snacks or lunches.

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Suggested Variations:

Almond-Coated Squares: — Cut into bite-sized squares and coat carefully in almond flour.

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For Adults Only Brandy Laraballs: Instead of adding water, dribble in 2-4 tablespoons brandy and process until mixture is fine and smooth. Take 1 1/2 teaspoons of the mixture and roll in your hands, then dust or coat with cocoa powder, cinnamon, or almond flour (or a combination of these), or drizzle with melted dark chocolate.

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21 March 2013
by stef
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Basic Basmati Rice Pilaf

Basic Basmati Rice Pilaf

Basic Basmati Rice Pilaf

Ingredients

  • 2 tablespoons coconut oil
  • 2 3-in cinnamon stick, crushed gently into large pieces
  • 4 cardamom pods
  • 4 cloves
  • 1/2 cup sliced onion
  • 2 cups basmati rice
  • 3 cups water
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons salt, or to taste

Instructions

  1. Heat coconut in large saucepan over high heat.
  2. Add crushed cinnamon sticks, cardamom pods, and cloves. Stir until fragrant (careful, cardamom may pop), about 8 seconds.
  3. Lower heat to medium and add onion. Cook, stirring, about 3 minutes.
  4. Add rice and stir well, then add the water and the salt. Cover and bring to a boil, about 5 minutes.
  5. You know what they say about a watched pot? Don't believe that. You WANT to watch this pot. :D
  6. Once it reaches the boil, cover and lower heat to a simmer. Cook about 18 minutes or until water has been absorbed. Let stand about 10 minutes before serving. Pile high on a platter, fluff with a fork, and enjoy.
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21 March 2013
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A Leap of Faith: Deep Conversion, Deep Prayer

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Continuing my Lenten reading/reflections on Fr. Thomas Dubay’s excellent book.

The ninth motive for embracing our entire surefire program may surprise you: people who are profoundly intimate with their indwelling Lord are never bored.

This is so true. I find that on those days when I am thoroughly focused on God’s presence in my life, when I am constantly seeking to hear His voice as I go about my daily tasks and dealing with my challenges , that’s when I have the most energy the most motivation. Consequently, that’s also when I accomplish so much. These are the moments when God becomes the be all and end all of my existence. These are also the moments when I am most joyful about everything that come part and parcel of who I am as wife and mother. These are the moments where I find the greatest harmony and peace.

Our tenth reason for taking the path to lofty virtue is that it equips the person to handle suffering profitably and even happily.

Our final motivation for resolute determination is that by it we are building up our primary community: marriage, priesthood, consecrated life.

Outsiders can do us harm, but far greater damage is usually brought about by spouses who refuse to get rid of their sins.

Life is far more harmonious and happy among people who readily renounce their egocentrisms. By giving up everything, they gain everything.

The past seven days have been life-changing for me for so many reasons, many of which I can’t detail here. But I need to write down what has happened even if it has to be in general terms because once again, the Holy Spirit has been amazing. Not only did He lead the Cardinals last week to elect our new Pope. I am convinced that the outpouring of the Holy Spirit’s grace has touched not only the Cardinals but so many of us who have been praying, “Come, Holy Spirit!”.

I took a leap of faith on Thursday that I had been so petrified of taking for the past several months. I’ve wrestled with the Lord on this, begged Him to give me an easy way out, begged Him to give me strength, constantly cried for His Mercy. But I knew that the ball was in my court and I needed to say yes to Him before anything else could happen. I said Yes on Thursday. What happened on Friday, on Saturday, on Sunday, on Monday, on Tuesday, on Wednesday, and finally today have all been nothing short of miraculous. I could almost hear Him saying, “What were you so afraid of?” I can almost laugh about it now. It has been bittersweet so far. Rending the heart and excising it of anything that is not in accordance with His will can be extremely painful and can bring about many tears, but the peace that such a leap of faith brings is priceless.

The Fourth “Be”: Be Committed to Daily Meditative/Contemplative Prayer

… the main source of deep conversion is to fall in love with endless Beauty. A genuine person will gladly sacrifice for real love. Christic martyrs are in love.

I don’t have much to say about this, other than I am more in love now with Jesus than ever before. My heart is full.

There is an intercausality between deep conversion and deep prayer. Each one brings about the other.

People intimate with God resist with all their might not only deadly sins, which kill the relationship, but also venial transgressions which, if deliberate, cool it.

Fr. Thomas Dubay then gives several examples from the Gospels and Acts. Our Lord was in the habit of spending extensive time in prayer. And Mama Mary is often found in contemplation as well.

Luke 5:16 But he withdrew to the wilderness and prayed.
Mark 1:35 And in the morning, a great while before day, he rose and went out to a lonely place, and there he prayed.

I have been greatly blessed to have witnessed two men in my life who spend their first minutes of the day in prayer. I remember waking up in my parents’ bedroom (we subscribe to the family bed :) ) early in the morning, around 5 am, when it was still dark outside, to my father’s silhouette as he sat up in bed, praying. How long he would do that each day I really don’t know, as I’d drift in and out of sleep watching him pray. When I got married, what a beautiful surprise that my husband is the same way.

Luke 6:12 In these days he went out to the mountain to pray; and all night he continued in prayer to God.
Luke 2:19 But Mary kept all these things, pondering them in her heart.
Luke 2:51 And he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them; and his mother kept all these things in her heart.

And the apostles:

Acts 1:14 All these with one accord devoted themselves to prayer, together with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brothers.

If we desire to become saints, why should we not aspire to follow the model provided by our Savior, His Mother and the Apostles?

19 March 2013
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Living Authentic Lives: Deep Conversion, Deep Prayer

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He makes the weak of this world mighty only to the extent that they cooperate with a determined and resolute repentance.

Might comes from cooperation with God’s divine will. I’ve found this to be true in confronting venial sin in particular. When I do my best to cooperate with what I know to be God’s will, it is only difficult at first, as I wrestle with following my will vs. His. Once the wrestling is over and I’ve embraced God’s will, I am immediately strengthened, ready and almost eager to battle the next challenge.

Being vibrantly concerned is the first step toward a strong determination to do something about the problem.

Awareness, knowledge of oneself and one’s weaknesses, is essential for any real change to happen.

committing them to rote memory

Fr. Dubay talks about the seven reasons he enumerates in Chapter 6, why deep conversion and deep prayer are key to becoming a completely loving, happy and fulfilled human person. I’m listing them here to help me remember:

1. happiness and fulfillment
2. real love
3. unobscured sight and insight
4. ecumenical effectiveness
5. purification of venial sins
6. inexpressible joy
7. eternity

He then adds four more; here’s the first:

apostolic effectiveness is increased…. lay men and women witnessing to truth, love and beauty by the example of their lives… spouses in their homes witnessing to each other and to their children and their extended families and friends. To bring people closer to God, competency and clarity are important, but they are not enough. Of themselves they do not touch hearts deeply. Personal sanctity and goodness do. It is the saints who light fires.

Every time I read that line, I think, “I want to be that saint who lights fires!!! Help me be that saint, Lord!!”

He also quotes from Frank Sheed’s The Church and I

… for ideas which could call upon a man to change his life, lucidity is not enough. The self of the teacher has to make contact in depth with the self of the hearer.

If we are going to bring people closer to God in work and life our own deepening conversion is indispensable.

This is so true. Just over the weekend someone was seeking my advice — she needs to help someone become holier (she didn’t put it that way, but that’s basically the goal in a nutshell). I pointed out that while she’s helping her loved one, she needs to be working on her holiness herself. And likewise, while I’m giving advice to her, *I* need to be working on my own holiness.

… if husbands and wives really love each other and their children, the best and most effective proof that their love is not mere words is to get rid of their major and minor selfishnesses and to deepen their prayer lives.

And again. I cannot inspire my husband to greater holiness unless I’m working on my personal holiness. I cannot teach my children to be less selfish if they can see that I’m being selfish myself. And I cannot teach them to deepen their prayer lives, when they don’t even see me praying or see the results of prayer in my own life and in my dealings with them.

There is no substitute for authenticity.

True that.

Authenticity, honesty, sincerity, integrity. REAL. A fusing of who we are in our minds, our spirits, our hearts, and our external selves.